The People Around You...
Some people can converse with a barista like it’s an Olympic sport. Then there are others who slip out of parties like a spy on a secret mission. But no matter where you fall on the spectrum, there’s one universal truth: life is full of people. Betty from work, who you nod at every morning like you’re sharing an inside joke. The older couple down the street, still holding hands like the credits of their love story are about to roll.
Even if you’re the CEO of Solitude, there’s always that little voice whispering in your ear: Wouldn’t it be nice if they liked me? Not in the drop everything, write me poetry kind of way, but in that quietly magical way that says, I’m glad you’re here.
And then, out of nowhere, you’re left grappling with the most existential question of adulthood: How to make friends as an adult, and more importantly, how do I get them to like me? The answer? You don’t have to figure it out in your echo chamber. At Hot & Social, we’re not just here to help you meet people—we’re here to help you find your tribe.
So, exhale. Making friends isn’t the Rubik’s Cube you think it is. Stick around because we’re about to crack the code. And spoiler: the secret to being likable? It’s already in you.
Be Genuine
You’ll never be everyone’s go-to flavor, and honestly? That’s a relief. Pretending to be someone you’re not is like wearing a mask—hot, uncomfortable, and impossible to keep up. The real magic happens when you walk into a room as yourself. Authenticity is an unspoken agreement—it says, You can trust me. This is real.
Not everyone will vibe with you, but the ones who do? They’ll love you for the real you. Be kind, be respectful, and let the world see who you are. That’s where the story begins.
Smile
A smile isn’t just an expression—it’s a moment, a message, a spark. It says, I see you. I’m glad you’re here. The kind of smile that comes from somewhere real? It draws people in, makes walls crumble, and leaves something unforgettable behind.
Everyone’s looking for a little happiness, even if they don’t say it. When you smile, you’re offering that—a small, fleeting joy they’ll carry with them. And trust me, optimism? It’s impossible to resist.
Conversations
Let’s be honest—good conversations are where the magic begins. They’re how people decide if you’re someone worth keeping in their orbit. But here’s the thing: a great conversation isn’t a monologue, and it’s not a show. It’s a dance—a rhythm of give and take. Listen like their words are the soundtrack to your favorite movie. Ask questions that open doors, not shut them. And whatever you do, don’t make it all about you. Real connections? They happen when you leave space for their stories, moments, and truth. That’s when the spark truly ignites. That’s where you know who and how to make friends as an adult.
Say Their Name
Names—they’re small but powerful. Forget one, and it’s like erasing a part of who they are. But remember it, say it, and suddenly, they feel seen. Think about it: how would you feel if someone important kept calling you the wrong name? Invisible. Unimportant.
Now flip it. When you remember someone’s name, you’re saying, You matter. Use it, let it flow naturally, and watch how it changes the energy in the room. And if you forget? Just own it. Asking again isn’t a weakness—it’s respect.
Make Sure of the Hygiene
Here’s the thing—you can’t talk about making friends without mentioning first impressions. And first impressions? They happen long before you say a single word. Your hygiene is your silent introduction; it’s your way of saying I care—about myself and being here with you.
A clean shave, a groomed face, a crisp, ironed shirt—these aren’t just about looking good. They’re about feeling good. And when you feel good, you carry yourself differently. You exude a quiet confidence that pulls people closer. Because let’s face it, no one wants to cozy up to chaos, no matter how charming you think you are.
Be Warm
Warmth isn’t just a sensation—it’s a connection. It’s the way you make someone feel seen, valued, and safe. And here’s the secret: warmth is the invisible thread that draws people in. A thoughtful compliment, a genuine “thank you,” a moment of empathy—these are the gestures that linger, leaving people thinking, I want more of that.
Combine that with open body language and a touch of kindness, and suddenly, you’re more than approachable—you’re unforgettable. And the beauty of warmth? It doesn’t fade. It stays with people, like the memory of a good hug.
And the Extra One…How to Make Friends as an Adult?
Let’s be real—making friends as an adult sounds harder than it is. It’s all about finding your people—the ones who get your humor, share your passions, and speak your language. Say yes to the after-work drinks, show up to that yoga class, or join a hobby club you’ve been eyeing. Your people? They’re out there, waiting for you to show up.
Need a little help? We’ve got a guide to walk you through every step.
Because friendship? It’s not just a thing—it’s everything.
Before You Go, Here’s Something to Think About
Before you dive into that guide, let me share a little secret—a way to make finding friends easy and unforgettable. Enter Hot and Social. We’re not just hosting events; we’re curating experiences.
Imagine us as vibrant dinners in the heart of NYC, where you can show up as yourself—no masks, no pretense. From our iconic Hot Girl & Guy Dinner to the soulful Hot & Shabbat, these aren’t just meals. They’re doorways to connection, the kind that starts with laughter over wine and leaves you thinking, This is what I’ve been missing.
Summing It All Up
Endings have a way of feeling like beginnings in disguise. As we close out this post, it’s less of an ending and more of a nudge—a little push to get you to join us at Hot and Social for the next big event.
But before we go there, let’s rewind. In this post, we gave you six ways to make people like you—habits that are simple yet powerful. So that you don’t have to think twice about how to make friends as an adult. Smile often, be genuine, and let warmth lead the way. And the secret to your biggest question? Finding friends as an adult: surround yourself with like-minded souls.
So, how do you do that? It’s easy. Since you’re already here, click on the “Get Tickets” section, pick an event that speaks to you, and show up. No need to bring anything—just yourself. Trust us, the rest will fall into place.
Because friendship isn’t something you stumble into. It’s something you step into. And we’re right here, waiting to make it happen with you.
